Sexual proclivities, in my life at least, don?t revolve around gender roles or the idea of masculinity or femininity. I prefer vers guys, because I like to flip. I think there is something sexy about that fluidity. I?ve been with guys that have more traditional opinions on tops/bottoms. They don?t typically last with me. I?ve also been with transmen that have similar feelings and some that don?t. It?s sex. To me, it shouldn?t be bound by these types of restrictions or the limitations of labels.
Curiously enough, though, dom and sub labels mimic the whole masculine/feminine dichotomy in my eyes. It?s so complex and deeply rooted in people. I wish some folks would be more open-minded about blurring/erasing those types of labels and feel free to be themselves in bed and outside of bed.
