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The problem with "masc4masc" is that it focuses primarily on what could be considered "toxic" masculinity. People who say that generally have deep mental issues, I've noticed. A lot of straight guys don't even take themselves that seriously.
All I need is the average "guy next door" type, and I'm fine.
the "guys next door" would be considered masculine tho bby
and im kinda missing your point because its masc 4 masc the keyword being 4. its literally one person saying what they want for themselves. so its confusing to me why anyone else would have anything to say about that
unless they were just bitter that they themselves are not whats on the menu. thats the only thing i can think otherwise why do they care? how does it effect them? lol.
personally, if im not someones type, thats a turn off for me lol next-a!
but to complain
"Guy next door" is much less restrictive, than what "masc4masc" suggests. From what I've noticed, people who say "masc4masc" focus in on the male archetype, what could be considered traits of "toxic" masculinity.
And it's fine if people want that for themselves, but it does become a legitimate issue beyond a certain point where people should just take a step back and really self-evaluate as to why they feel the way they do.
a legitimate issue to whom? why do they need to evaluate why they feel the way that they do? because you dont agree with it? again its their preference
and what exactly are you categorizing as "toxic" exactly? what are the specific traits that you feel are specifically referred to when it comes to masc 4 masc. because for me its mannerisms and speech, etc.
and again that is not saying its bad or wrong to have feminine mannerisms or speech. simply saying it doesn't make my dick hard.
A legitimate issue for themselves being that they just might miss out on the love of their life due to something trivial. It is possible to want something and to miss out on the bigger picture is all I'm saying. For all you know, until you get to really know a person, that one guy that might have feminine mannerisms would be the one that's best for you in the long run. I'm not saying it's the case, but it's a possibility. "Masc4Masc" guys are just really rigid when it comes to dating. I'm not necessarily saying you're wrong, but you could also be a little short-sighted and deprive yourself in the process.
with all due respect, this just seems to be your one dimensional take on what you think men want or feel when they say masc 4 masc. maybe its rooted in an experience, which i can totally respect. but the very idea "masc 4 masc" guys could "miss out" is kinda ridiculous to me. how can i miss out on a guy that im not attracted to.
this also assumes thats the
only requirement, which is not the case. thats just one of many preferences.
i think its also worth noting all of us as men (gay or straight) possess some level of femeninity. im not, nor do i think most m4m men are looking for a complete absence of femeninity. thats unhealthy even.
but if you pop and twirl, i love you, i support you, im just not attracted to you. that doesn't mean i cant enjoy all you have to offer as a person. and if hell freezes over and i fall for yas one day... dont see it happening but hey!
till then where manly mens at